Happiness: Built not bought
More and more often I tend to speak to individuals whose happiness meter seems to be near empty. They describe chasing some fairy tale life they describe as “normal.” Basically, they’ve been sold on a cultural narrative their entire lives, and they’re stuck in a frantic bubble. It’s tough to escape, but happiness is built, not bought.
Happiness won’t come from the things you want, it exists when you’re content with what you have. That doesn’t mean you won’t continue to have more, but one should be more intentional as to what they want more of; more experiences, more memories, more friendships, or more possessions. Perhaps, one will want more knowledge, more wisdom, more education. Better yet, more volunteering, more helping, more problem solving, more generosity.
Unfortunately, most people think their sole purpose is to go to a job they may or may not like each day, make money, and buy stuff. They claim it’s because they have to pay bills, take care of the kids, or a list of other responsibilities. However, they spend every day stressed, usually can’t afford all the things they’ve convinced themselves they need, yet somehow think it’s the best way to live. Strangely, some lies adults don’t stop believing. For the record, the tooth fairy, and Santa aren’t real either.
In no way am I suggesting that one quit their job, and become a vagabond, or anything of the sort. Rather, I think one has to shift focus to what truly matters. Build a life that makes life worth living. To do so requires effort, may require guidance, and most certainly will require sacrifice. In the end, I guarantee it will far surpass the short-term happiness that might come from a shopping spree over the weekend (unless you bought a boat, because boats offer unlimited opportunities for happiness).
If you’re struggling to be happy, find a purpose, or meaning in your life, please reach out directly, or leave a comment on this post. Let’s start a conversation. It’s okay to talk about the struggles of everyday life. It’s okay to ask for help. It’s great to hear how other people are coping. It’s great to share encouragement, and continue to work together to move that happiness gauge to full.